Emotional Clarity is Your Superpower

Coaching for Women Ready to Rip Up the “Good Girl” Script & Live Unbound

Most of us were handed a cookie-cutter script for how to live, love and succeed — the “good-girl” path, the shoulds, the invisible rules. I coach women brave enough to rip up that script, shed old identities and rewrite the rules of intimacy, self-trust and success on their own terms.

My clients move from living inside invisible rules and “good girl” conditioning to feeling uncaged, confident and fully alive in how they love, lead and live. Whether you’re exploring ethical non-monogamy, redefining intimacy or simply tired of losing yourself in relationships, my coaching helps you outgrow old versions of yourself, embody new ways of being and create a life that feels unbound, unshackled and deeply meaningful.

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Is This You?

Nyla Khan, relationship coach for women, helping clients stop people-pleasing, build self-trust and create emotionally safe, fulfilling relationships.

  • You’ve played by the rules, bitten your tongue, dimmed your light, matched everyone else’s pace, and you’re done.

  • You’ve been called “too much” for wanting clarity, care and consistency.

  • You’ve faked confidence on dates, at parties or in bed while inside you’re anxious and overthinking.

  • You’ve carried the emotional load, fixing and smoothing until you’re exhausted.

Whether it’s dating, long-term love or ethical non-monogamy, the pattern is the same: you’ve been giving yourself away.

Ready to go from shrinking to unapologetic expansion?

The Path Back to Yourself

Pace Power Pleasure relationship coaching framework for self-trust.

My signature Pace, Power & Pleasure framework helps you shed the invisible scripts and embody new ways of being, moving from anxious spirals to unshakeable self-trust.

  1. PACE – Learn to honour your rhythm, instead of rushing at someone else’s speed.
    This is often the first breakthrough, slowing down enough to hear your body’s wisdom and let your nervous system guide you.

  2. POWER – Find the words and confidence to hold your boundaries, ask for what you need, and stop spiralling into guilt or self-doubt.
    This is how you build trust in yourself, even when it feels uncomfortable at first.

  3. PLEASURE – Reconnect with desire from a place of safety, so intimacy and connection feel nourishing, not overwhelming.
    This is where somatic tools help you stay in your body instead of getting stuck in your head.

This Self-Trust framework helps you move from people-pleasing and spirals to grounded clarity and secure, nourishing relationships, without abandoning yourself.

Ways We Can Work Together

All coaching is 1:1, personalised, and guided by the Pace, Power & Pleasure framework. This isn’t about the number of sessions, it’s about helping you rip up the invisible rules, shed the ‘good girl’ conditioning, and embody unshakeable self-trust in every relationship.

Nyla Khan, psychosynthesis and body-based coach supporting women in relationships and ENM to move from people-pleasing to self-trust and secure connection.

Liberated Relating

Your Deep 1:1 Journey to Live Unbound

From People-Pleasing to Unshakeable Self-Trust & Authentic Connection

Coaching for women done with over-giving and second-guessing. Together we’ll rip up the invisible rules, shed the “good girl” conditioning and build self-trust, embodied boundaries and intimacy that feels secure, nourishing and real. You’ll leave feeling uncaged, confident and fully alive in how you love, lead and live.

    • Honour your own pace instead of rushing at someone else’s speed, shedding the “good girl” script that tells you to override your needs.

    • Speak your boundaries clearly without guilt or spiralling, rewriting your relational template so self-trust comes first.

    • Reconnect with pleasure from safety so intimacy feels nourishing, not overwhelming, embodying new ways of being that feel authentic and unbound.

    • 10x 1:1 coaching sessions (Zoom, 60 mins each)

    • Personalised integration notes after every sessions - your breakthroughs, prompts and next steps

    • In-the-moment coaching support via WhatsApp between sessions

    • Bonus: Emotional Safety Map — a personalised guide to your Pace, Power & Pleasure needs

    You’ll move through three phases of transformation: from self-awareness, to relational clarity, to confident action; so you can finally feel secure, self-trusting and grounded in your relationships.

  • Investment: £1,600 (or 3x £533)
    Available in both a general and ENM edition.

Before this work, I was doubting myself all the time. Now I know exactly where my boundaries are, how to hold them, and I can communicate them without spiralling.” - Alex

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    THE UNMASKING SESSIONS

    A 2-week reset for women who are done hiding or over-giving

    A short, powerful journey to help you stop over-giving and silence the self-doubt that keeps you small.

    In just two weeks, you’ll start uncovering the patterns (like people-pleasing, anxious spirals, or biting your tongue) that drain your energy, and practice new ways of showing up with clarity and confidence.

    Think of it as a reset: a chance to pause, breathe and reclaim the version of you that doesn’t need to perform to feel worthy.

    Investment: £399

    “I left feeling lighter, clearer, and more in control, with zero guilt.” - Amy

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    THE MONTHLY MEMBERSHIP

    Stay anchored in your self-trust as you embody the change.

    Perfect if you want consistent support without committing to a longer programme.

    One 60-minute session each month, plus light-touch WhatsApp support — perfect for graduates of my programmes or women who want a consistent touchpoint to stay grounded and clear.

    Investment: £249/month
    Cancel anytime.

    “I didn’t expect such a shift in just two weeks. Having Nyla walking beside me week after week helped me to stop spiralling when things felt tough.” - Lucy

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What My Clients Say…

  • "I feel far more intentional about the way I relate now." — Aysha S

    Working with Nyla helped me see my relationships (and myself) from new perspectives. I’ve reconnected with what matters most, and I feel so much more intentional about the way I relate, love, and live.

  • “This work changed how I show up in every relationship.” - Jo

    This work has helped me get to the emotional roots of the patterns I kept repeating in my relationships. For the first time, I’m making choices that feel grounded, clear and aligned. It’s shifted how I relate to myself, my friends and even work colleagues!

  • "A game changer for navigating non-traditional relationships.” - Kristin K

    I used to second-guess myself constantly in ENM. Nyla helped me spot what was really going on beneath the surface and gave me the language to hold my boundaries. It’s been a total game changer.

What You’ll Walk Away With

  1. Unshakeable self-trust in tough moments
    Whether it’s boundaries, jealousy or attachment wobbles, you’ll have tools to respond calmly instead of spiralling, shedding the “good girl” reflex to please or appease.

  2. Freedom from old patterns and ‘good girl’ conditioning
    No more running on autopilot. You’ll see the Pleaser, the Rebel, the Protector, and rewrite your relational template so self-trust leads.

  3. Your full voice back — speak needs, hold boundaries
    You’ll ask for what you need, own your desires and stop betraying yourself just to keep the peace, embodying new ways of being rooted in self-trust.

  4. Lightness and freedom — enjoy intimacy and life on your own terms
    Less anxiety, more ease. Anchored in your own rhythm, you’ll feel free to enjoy love, intimacy and life on your terms — unbound, unshackled and deeply yourself.

This isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about shedding the scripts you were handed and stepping into the self you’ve always been.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Women who are self-aware and emotionally intelligent, but keep repeating patterns they can’t shift alone. If you’ve ever thought, ‘I know what’s happening, but I can’t seem to change it’ ….this work is for you. Whether in dating, long-term love or ENM, we go to the root so you can finally feel secure, self-trusting and free.

  • Therapy helps heal the past. Coaching helps you take aligned action in the present. My work is trauma-aware and nervous-system sensitive, but the focus is on growth, clarity, and real-time tools you can use in relationships now.

  • Yes. This isn’t trauma therapy, but it is trauma-aware and nervous-system sensitive. That means we’ll always go at your pace, ground insight through the body (not just the mind), and create a space that feels safe enough for real change.

  • Not at all. My coaching helps women in all kinds of relationships — monogamous, dating or ENM. The patterns we shift (people-pleasing, over-giving, second-guessing) show up everywhere. If you want more self-trust, clarity and emotional safety in love, you’ll benefit.

  • That’s great, but most clients come to me because they know the concepts but haven’t integrated them into their lived behaviours yet. Coaching bridges that gap, turning insight into lived change so you actually feel different in the moment, not just understand it intellectually.

  • That’s completely normal. Most women I work with have spent years putting others first, so saying yes to themselves feels huge. Coaching is designed to give you the support, accountability, and tools to make that investment pay off in your relationships, confidence and peace of mind.

  • Some women notice shifts after just one or two sessions, like having language for needs they’ve been avoiding for months. Deeper transformation takes time, but you’ll start building tools and confidence from our very first call.